Ideas of what to do with a friend

[thscs112]

My and my other friend love tohang out together, but lately, I think that she is bored. We usually go biking, or we just watch a movie at the theaters, but I was wondering what other things we could do that are fun. I was thinking about going tot he aquarium or zoo. Does anyone else have ideas? I'm a guy and she's a girl by the way.

[Shadow]

My friends and I are diner/coffeeshop people. We'll just go and talk for hours about random stuff.

But then again we're nerds.

[Ferris Bueller]

yeah, i'm deffinately a hang out and do random stuff kinda guy. my best suggestion would be to make her pick what you guys are going to do. i mean, i don't really know what there is to do in your area but chances are, if she is getting bored, then she will have something in mind that she wants to do.

[thscs112]

Well I always ask her what she wants to do before doing anything, and she just says that she is up for anything. I then ask if she would want to do this or that, and she says that it sounds really fun, so we just do what I say. This time around, I'll ask her to give me a straight answer.

[Ferris Bueller]

i wouldn't push the point to hard though. just tell her that it is her turn to pick what to do or say that you have no idea what to do that day. that way she has to pick but you aren't really "making" her do something. i don't know really. you two sound to me like really good friends who hang out alot. i have a friend like that and sometimes we have to stop hanging out for a little while just to get a break from always being around eachother.

[thscs112]

Haha, ya we are pretty great friends. And I'm not gonna push her, but I'll ask for her opinion. By the way, one last thing. Do any of you know something that is really fun and memorable to do? Since she is going off to college, I would want her to have the time of her life that week before she goes and I would want her to remember it for a long time.

One idea a riend gave me was tot ake her to the beach and watch the sunset. That sounded like a good idea, but after thinking about it, would it seem a bit suggestive or something? I mean, we both don't like each other that way, though I used to a while back. Any opinions?

[Ferris Bueller]

well, the sunset at the beach could be wierd. that is usually a thing shared between to people who are romantically involved or just completely drunk out of their minds. since you are not really either i would advise against it.

if you guys have a band that you both like that will be in town then go to that. concerts are always a great idea. depending on where you are located, going on a road trip could be really fun too (although with gas prices i don't know).

[thscs112]

Ya, I thought that it would be a bit awkward as well. I guess I'll ask her what she wants to do on that day before she leaves and essentially be her chauffeur. It will be her last night after all, so I would want her to have as much fun as possible.

Gosh, whenever I ask her what she is in the mood for, she tells me to pick. I ask her why, and she jokingly says "Cause I told you so, so do it", which she probably did. I am never able to get any ideas out of her. =( I'll try and ask what she wants to do first next time, though how do I get her to pick something? I don't want to be like the control freak and what not.

Ok, one more question cause I don't think it really deserves a separate thread. Because she is going away at the end of the summer,I wasthinking about getting her a going away present, though Id on't have many ideas. One that I'm leaning towards is makinga picture frame that says "Best friends forever" or something around those lines. Does anyone have any other ideas or just a comment about mine?

[Ferris Bueller]

sorry i missed that last bit when i read this earlier. the picture frame is a good idea. something else you could do is go and take lots of pictures of the places you guys hang out and add the pictures you already have of you guys doing stuff and make a *montage* (i hope that's right) on your computer and add some music and then burn it onto a dvd. if you have any videos you could add clips too.

whatever you end up doing make sure that it is something that is hard to lose but easy to take places. that way it wont feel like a burden for her.

i hope this is usefull in some way and i will try and come up with some other ideas.

[Greenlover17]

Yeah, picture frames are a good idea. Most girls love photos and scrapbooks to store their memories away. You could also put together a push-pin board or some kind of organizer that can hold coats and bags, etc that would fit nicely in a dorm. That kind of stuff is relatively easy to create, can be personalized, and is very convent for dorm life-or apartments.

I know my sister loved this 'file cabinet' that we put together for her school papers, etc. It's got something from everyone on it, too.

Hope this helps,

Greenlover17

[Der Läufer]

The idea of a DVD of photos and whatnot is a really good one. That when, when she's missing you or home she can pop that in and watch it. One of my friends did that for her boyfriend. We all basically spent the whole day around town taking tons of photos and then she made the DVD the next day. It was pretty cool.

[thscs112]

I decided thta the DVD would take too much time to do, and I am on a bit of a time constraint. I went to a local art store to check stuff out, and I saw a cool picture frame thingy. It was a cube that had 4 sides for pictures, and the bottom part had a wheel that revolved the thing,a nd the top could be taken off so someone could store something inside it as well. Anyway, since it has 4 sides, and a top, I wouldn't want to give her a plain picture holder. I was wondering of more stuff to put on it besides "Best friends" That would take 1 side, but what about the other 3? And also, what could I do with the top? I was thinking about getting some Disney stickers and other things of what she likes and sticking them on the top, but what are your opinions. Thanks again!

[Ferris Bueller]

look man, this is the point where you have to stop asking people and just do what feels right. you got something you think you can run with but you are loosing sight of what the whole point of the thing is. aren't you trying to show her how much your friendship has ment to you? that is something that has to come from you. it doesn't really matter what you do because she will understand that it comes from the heart.

[thscs112]

I know that what ultimately, what I do has to come from the bottom of my heart and whatnot. I was just wondering what I should do to cover up space. Like decorations and such. I mean, I wouldn't want one side to look really nice, and the others to be completely empty. But I think that I have an idea anyway.

[Greenlover17]

Ferris is right. This is for her, think about what is important in her life. You cannot go wrong that way. ;) I'm sure whatever pictures and such that you put on her little 'photo cube' will be appreciated by her, you are the one who knows her, not us.

It's good to know you got ideas; it warms me to know that there are still people out there that really care about their friends.

Greenlover17

[thscs112]

Ok, so I recently met up with her, and I gave her the picture frame, and I said "I'm going to miss you so much. I love you like a sister, and you are the greatest friend a person could ask for" I accidentally let the "love" part slip, but I said the sister part afterwards. Would that make her feel weirded out? I don't have any romantic feelings for her by the way. (Last totally random bump, I promise)

[Greenlover17]

Look thscs,

What are you so worried about? You're friends, that kinda stuff transcends boundaries. If ya made her feel weird, I'm sure you would have known; but most likely it didn't matter that you said "love". Most people understand that there are many kinds out there, and you specified which type you meant, so I'm sure it didn't matter. Probably made her feel good, to know that she's got someone to count on as family, ya know?

Don't worry so much, it puts wrinkles on your face. ;P

Greenlover17

[thscs112]

Haha, you're right. I overthink everything too much. I guess that is why I'm so self conscious about whatever I do. I'm sure I would be a lot more at ease if I just sat back and let everything take it's course and not worry about what happens next.

[Greenlover17]

Hey, over-analyzing is good in some scenarios, and just letting the world take it's course can be so boring if you have no input in it.

And, of course I'm right. I'm the one who has the wrinkles. :D

Greenlover17

[thscs112]

I just finished writing a lengthy letter, and I plan on giving it to her in person soon. Should I jsut give it to her and leave, or should I give it to her, and let her read it? One of my friends even suggested that I read it to her, which she might find nice. What do you guys think?

[Ferris Bueller]

good byes are not my speciality but i would say don't read it to her. personally i would feel kind of awkward standing and waiting for her to finish reading it too. you said it was leangthy so she might feel wierd trying to read it with you there waiting for her to finish. i don't know. see what happens when you give it to her instead of having a set plan.